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Name: Nitemare

Question:
I wrote you a few weeks ago about No Contact. I started several times to send a short termination email, but I couldn't bring myself to even acknowledge his emails. I know these people are abnormal, but it's devastating to think that he replaced me within an HOUR, after two years together (I assume he followed through on his threat to leave my house for hers, I don't really want to know). It was a recycled girl from his past, just as you say in your books. I'm in therapy but each day is very painful; it has been two weeks. Of course he would like to be friends. I'm totally disgusted. Any advice, other than No Contact? I'm still so angry and hurt.

Answer:
You can't start the grieving process if you don't permanently disconnect (i.e., extinguish all avenues of contact PERMANENTLY). Right now, you're in grief limbo. When you close all the doors (in your mind, and/or on paper), then the true grieving begins and a light at the end will slowly appear.

Steven Carter
Relationship expert and author of 19 books, including the New York Times bestseller, Men Who Can't Love, What Smart Women Know, Getting To Commitment, 'This Is How Love Works' and his newest, Help, I'm In Love With A Narcissist

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