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Name: Sally

Do You have any suggestions about how I can help my husband understand what I'm going through? Sally


There are areas on the site containing articles that are perfect for everyone, especially men, to get the information they need. Case in point, in the Educate Your Body Library and the Newsworthy area. I would also recommend the article, What Is Menopause? It may be too technical for men who aren't really interested in women's ovulation and how the process really works. I would have him read the What Is Power Surge? page. Within that one page is, I believe, a great deal of information that will help any man understand what his partner is going through - and it's pretty much to the point.

There are also two excellent transcripts that are part of a series I did called, "Man To Man... Women and Menopause" -- devoted to the men in the lives of menopausal women." The purpose of this series is to help educate men on the transition their wives / partners and, ultimately, relationships go through. Dick Roth, a 53-year-old former Olympic gold medal winner says he nearly derailed his own marriage when his wife started to suffer hot flashes. "I was the typical clueless husband," Roth says, whose book is, No, It's Not Hot In Here: A Husband's Guide To Understanding Menopause has been very popular in helping to educate men about their wives or partners menopause experience. Both men and women are encouraged to attend this series of chats. Read the transcript of Dick Roth's visit.

Another guest in the series was Bruce Bekkar, M.D. Dr. Bekkar, aka "Dr. Bruce," has a dry sense of humor and has a successful course for men on women's biology. He says he wrote the book, Your Guy's Guide To Gynecology: Everything You Wish He Knew About Your Body If He Wasn't Afraid To Ask to help the average man, whom he says is "completely confused about how women's plumbing works. This ignorance can adversely affect relationships." Men were encouraged to attend this series of chats to help them better understand their partners' menopausal experience. Read the transcript of Dr. Bruce Bekkar's visit.

You might want to look through the Men, This One Is For You board. I put that on the boards because I figured some men would feel more comfortable having their own forum. A group of women talking about menopause, or anything for that matter, could be intimidating to a man who needs information. I highly recommend checking out that forum.

You also have to look around the entire site. There are so many areas and articles, newsletters, faqs, resources. There's even a Male Point of View page where I've done interviews with men regarding their feelings about women aging.

I would make every effort to read as many as you can of Steven Carter's transcripts. (I've given you the link to his first transcript, but there are quite a few there and the links to the others can be found at the bottom of each transcript). The information he imparts is priceless. He's one of the country's leading relationship experts and a more articulate person would be a challenge to find. He's also Power Surge's Relationship Expert. You might want to send him a question. He's the author of 19 books including the New York Times bestseller, "Men Who Can't Love," "What Smart Women Know," "Getting To Commitment" and his newest, "This Is How Love Works: 9 Essential Secrets You Need to Know."

Go through the transcript Library and you'll find the area of expertise of each guest. You're bound to find numerous transcripts of interest. another well known relationship expert, Barbara Deangelis, as well as Mira Kirshenbaum, Lee Raffel, Sharyn Wolf, Joy and Gary Lundberg.

I'd also recommend visiting the Ask The Intimacy Expert, Sandy Scantling, Psy.D who can answer any questions men may have regarding sex and intimacy during the menopausal years. There are links to her transcripts there as well.

I hope this helps.


Power Surge Founder

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