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Someone wrote...
H I steven, I can't stop wondering why the cp keeps me in his life and will not let go; yet I know other women ... He eliminated them from his life. .. if I am different than the others. At least that is what I want to believe.

A: Can't commit to being with you. Can't commit to being without you. The others probably had little meaning to him. You have more meaning to him. But he'll still torture you endlessly if you keep the door open. The more special you are, the more you will suffer. Get out now. This isn't a game.

To Whoever that someone was...My Cp ex , still said he loved me...over 3 years later...but It's all fantasy.
Because I let it all go and got healed, none of this nonsense affects me anymore.
Let Go. You will heal too.

You are obsessed. And you will never get a satisfactory answer because you're trying to understand the mechanics of his illness. I said let go. I'm saying it again. And I could not be any more serious. Grieve and move on. Otherwise you will be writing the exact same letters twenty years from now.

Steven Carter
Relationship expert and author of 19 books, including the New York Times bestseller, Men Who Can't Love, What Smart Women Know, Getting To Commitment, 'This Is How Love Works' and his newest, Help, I'm In Love With A Narcissist

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