Relationship Expert Q&A's

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Name: Anonymous
Question:
Also, even though I understand that they use pre-existing traits to find an excuse out of the relationship, he pursued me and pre-existing characteristics such as claiming certain haircolors are not his type make no sense because he pursued me and initiated everything. If he was not attracted to my particular haircolor then why initiate conversation and a subsequent relationship? Also if I was used for sex the relationship would have not gone much farther than the initial sexual relationship, at least according to my rational mind. Although I fully comprehend the books and concepts behind them I still feel like the situation is surreal and as if I did something wrong. Please humor me and provide a comforting response, I am in a lot of pain, misery and confusion.
Answer:
If you are in a lot of pain there is only one response I should be giving you: you need to speak with a therapist and work your way through this material. Right now you are stuck and therapy is the best way to unstick you. Please. Steven Carter Relationship expert and author of 19 books, including the New York Times bestseller, Men Who Can't Love, What Smart Women Know, Getting To Commitment, 'This Is How Love Works' and his newest, Help, I'm In Love With A Narcissist Read Steven Carter's guest transcripts on Power Surge.