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Name: Sarah

My therapist has been supportive of my need to disengage from my CP ex. At one point, we saw her jointly, so she knows us very well. I’ve continued regular individual therapy with her for 2 years since. She likes both of us, but seems to take a special liking to him -- his immaturity can be very charming, it’s like talking to and playing with a smart kid. While she supports me, she “likes” him and this pisses me off. I’m tired of the explanation that his “immaturity” shows his naivety and innocence, thus his is not “malicious” as a person. He may not be malicious, but does it matter given all the things he did to harm me? How do I handle this with the therapist? I can’t make her dislike him, and I shouldn’t feel the need to control how others feel, but it does hurt me a lot.

I suspect your therapist is the victim of a narcissistic seduction. I also suspect she may not be a very strong therapist because she doesn't seem to understand some of the fundamental characteristics of a narcissistic personality disorder. It may be time to look for someone wiser and more experienced.

Steven Carter
Relationship expert and author of 19 books, including the New York Times bestseller, Men Who Can't Love, What Smart Women Know, Getting To Commitment, 'This Is How Love Works' and his newest, Help, I'm In Love With A Narcissist

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