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Relationship Expert

Name: Kate
Question:
Just read your response to Jen...I'm Having the same problem with my ex. He sends out little "feelers" and it throws me back into that turmiol. I've started seeing a therapist, which is helping a lot. My question is this...how Can you tell if a CP is ever truly healed? And are their little gestures a curtain call, so that's why it's unclean?
Answer:
Their "little gestures" are their way of reassuring THEMSELVES (not you!) that they can change their mind at any time and pull you back into their lives. And as long as they know they have access to you, they don't really want you. They just want to know they have access. THAT'S HOW YOU KNOW THEY'RE STILL SICK! It is not a sign of healing, it is a sign of illness! A truly healed CP is a human being you wouldn't recognize, devoid of any of the language or behaviors you are currently experiencing. Steven Carter Relationship expert and author of 19 books, including the New York Times bestseller, Men Who Can't Love, What Smart Women Know, Getting To Commitment, 'This Is How Love Works' and his newest, Help, I'm In Love With A Narcissist Read Steven Carter's guest transcripts on Power Surge.